Do you know someone who is always on the opposite side of your opinion? I’m not talking about your spouse, it’s supposed to be that way. But someone who always starts out their response with “Well, actually…”
Star Wars vs Star Trek, DC vs Marvel, Republican vs Democrat vs some weird 3rd party, Christian vs Pagan (Don’t even get me started on the Religious subcultures, that’s an issue that loses more friendships than any)
Some people just like to hear your opinion first so they can play “devil’s advocate” and just to get on your nerves. It’s tough to be friends with people like this. How do you deal with it? Well, you can always ask a bunch of follow up questions if they are the type of person that makes statements. The best way is just to keep quiet and not share your opinions. Someone can’t shoot you down if you don’t give them any ammo. Read twitter posts, Facebook status and just grin and move on. But you can’t can you? So if you must be right all the time, unleash your best with no mercy and enjoy no friendships.
They died too young.
Who are you to say when someone is supposed to die? Do you magically know everyone’s expiration date? People aren’t cartons of milk.
They are in a better place
I know we aren’t supposed to judge, but isn’t this the worse kind of judgement? From a Xian perspective this is the kind of judgement Jesus told us not to make, this one is delegated to him. It’s between Jesus and the departed.
They are no longer in pain
Really? How do you know what death is like, it might be the worst pain you’ve ever felt. You have no gauge because you’ve never died.
They are no longer suffering
Suffering is relative so how do you know they were suffering before? Maybe they were having a good time from their point of view.
Asking for stuff
I don’t know what the grace period is for asking to take the departed’s belongings, but when they are lowering the coffin into the grave is probably not the best time to ask if you can have the flat screen from their living room.
Depending on your worldview some of these things could be true. Again you are making a judgement that you are not qualified to make.
I can understand if you are saving a seat for your spouse, or visiting family members. Other than that, are we still in elementary school? It’s like saying, I really don’t want to get to know anyone new. I have my friends and I want to keep it that way. What’s worse is when someone else asks the same question as you are walking away and they say, “No, go head and sit down”. Ouch! I really don’t know what else to say, except, I’ll save you a seat in heaven, if I see you there.
Keep in mind there are those type of people at every church, but don’t let that distract you from the content of the preaching, style of worship, how others are dressed and how many sermons in a row are on tithing.